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Rudder wrote that user data showed that most men on the site rated black women as less attractive than women of other races and ethnicities.

So he wasn't surprised when he read a blog post from Ok Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder in 2014 about race and attraction.

To be blunt, I’m convinced most Asian women seek out white men because a) they are generally seen as more desirable catches by society b) they want their children to have as many advantages as possible in life – infusing some “European” blood in the mix will increase the odds that they will have more physiological advantages.

However, I’m a little different: though I have dated white guys, I deliberately don’t gravitate towards them because I can’t let go of that Utopian ideal in which one day people truly will be “color blind.” As much as possible, I try to give the “other race” category more of a chance.

This creates friction when both the man and the woman have the same strengths and weaknesses. And while I may have been looking for a Jewish woman because it would be easier for her to understand me, I wasn’t willing to give up my Catholic girlfriend who turned out to be the greatest person I’ve ever known of any religion. And a disproportionate number of them are still single.

The only difference is that Jewish men are willing to sacrifice a Jewish wife in return for happiness. As a dating coach, my loyalty is to YOUR happiness, Lily.

I am simplifying things here, but this is the gist of my issues.

I’m sure there is a non white guy out there who could also be devoted to me, but, hey, the clock is ticking and I don’t have forever to wait for the perfect guy.

But why do I feel so defeated in accepting this idea?