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About dating and courtship

So these are four important cultural forces in the early part of the 20th century that assisted in moving our culture from the older courtship system that existed prior to the late 19th century, to a courtship system that includes "dating," which, I will argue in the next article, is much more ambiguous and confusing.

There is too much that could be said here, so I'll be brief.

Simply put, with the onset of the widespread use of chemical and other means of birth control, the language of procreation — of having children — was separated from the language of marriage. of Chicago ethicist Leon Kass argues in his chapter on courtship in , under the old system of courtship, marriage and bringing a child into the world were inextricably linked. With the ever decreasing risk of pregnancy, having sex and being married were no longer tied together.

There should be ample opportunities to experience the prospective spouse’s behavior in a variety of circumstances" (Dallin H.

Oaks, " Divorce," Don't let yourself get caught up in the moment by jumping into marriage when you're still in the stage of infatuation and attraction.

Having gone through a painful divorce myself, I wish I had known and followed Elder Oaks dating and courtship advice:"The best way to avoid divorce from an unfaithful, abusive, or unsupportive spouse is to avoid marriage to such a person. Associations through 'hanging out' or exchanging information on the Internet are not a sufficient basis for marriage.

There should be dating, followed by careful and thoughtful and thorough courtship.

Bailey observes that by the 1930s and '40s, with the advent of the "date" (which we will look at more fully in the next installment) courtship increasingly took place in public spaces such as movie theaters and dance halls, removed by distance and by anonymity from the sheltering and controlling contexts of the home and local community.

Keeping company in the family parlor was replaced by dining and dancing, movies, and "parking." A second cultural force that influenced the older courtship system was the rise of "public advice" literature as well as the rise of an "expert" class of advisers — psychologists, sociologists, statisticians, etc.

Have you ever known a girl who went out with a guy who was a complete dolt but who could help her get ahead socially?

(And not to pick on women, it just as easily happens in reverse.) Those decisions are based more on economic theory of the 19th and 20th centuries than on any sort of biblical notion of desire for the opposite sex.

If you are familiar with computer programming terminology, you can liken dating to a sub-routine that has been added to the system of courtship.